‘What LIES Between Us’ Fall 2017, CLT

The next “What LIES Between US‘ five-week course  is being hosted by Church at Charlotte, Sunday evenings beginning September 10th from 4:00 to 5:30 p.m.

We designed this series specifically for ‘beginners’ to the race conversation and analysis. Participants gain historical and social context for racial division, support for self-reflection, healing, and growth, and have the opportunity to develop community with others who want to be a part of the dialogue and transformation.

Register here.

 

June 12th is Loving Day

This year’s Loving Day (2017) marks the 50th anniversary of the1967 United States Supreme Court decision Loving v. Virginia which struck down all anti-miscegenation laws remaining in sixteen U.S. states. Learn more at LovingDay.org.

What has changed in 50 years?

According to a new Pew Research Center analysis of U.S. Census Bureau data, in 2015, 17% –one in six– of all U.S. newlyweds had a spouse of a different ethnicity, marking more than a fivefold increase since 1967, when 3% of newlyweds were intermarried.

In observance of Loving Day,  Nathan I connected with Brett & Anjelica to candidly talk about marriage, family, and life in 2017. Though we have never met in person and are on opposite coasts (USA), we discover that we have a lot in common. This was fun!

 

Interviewed by Anjelica

We continue to be pleasantly surprised when we learn that someone is interested in the Brownicity story; that people outside of our family are getting something from it; that they are moved and inspired by it.

I see so much division and fist pumping, but very few people stepping across the aisle to offer a gentle embrace for solidarity and inclusive instruction on how to reconcile. I think that’s mainly because there is great hurt and those who feel misunderstood. So when I listened to Lucretia share about her movement Brownicity, I almost wept with relief. Here was someone saying so many of the things I wish I had the expertise and finesse to share with all of you.

Anjelica Malone of A Global Tribe of Women

Anjelica Malone is a lactation educator counselor, writer, creative, and shoppe curator, who “met” us through The Global Mom Show with Mary Grace Otis (Episode 29).

Read more of Anjelica’s interview with me. And get to know Anjelica and Mary Grace. You’ll love these global-minded, talented, creative, conscious, difference makers.

Our pre-interview FaceTime chat. What a great smile!

Parents & Teachers: Help! Get a $50 Amazon Gift Card!

Parents and teachers:

Participate in this study (Parent SurveyTeacher Survey) conducted by our very own Dr. Tehia Starker Glass of UNCC’s College of Education.

If you are one of the first 50 participants for this study, you will receive a $50 Amazon gift card!  Simply, complete both the survey AND an interview by July 15, 2017.  In addition to the gift card, you may also receive 1 of 10  complementary registrations to the Pursuing Extraordinary Outcomes in Public Education (PEOPE) Conference held at UNC Charlotte Center City Campus October 30th. This year, PEOPE is featuring a series of presentations on conversations with children about race–including the results of this study!

Thank you for your participation and contribution to the research! Click a link below to start the survey.   

Parent Survey 

Teacher Survey 

Once again, THANK YOU!

The Strength of Vulnerability

(Church at Charlotte’s City Series Podcast with guest Dr. Lucretia Carter Berry of Brownicity.)

What is she going to say about race?

Who is she going to blame?”

These are the thoughts that I imagine are behind those wide eyes staring forward at me.  I can feel people subconsciously strapping in for what ever wild and treacherous ride that they think I am about to take them on. ’The nervous tension of anticipation’ is how I describe it.

In this particular instance, upon my arrival, I was greeted with being told that the number of registrants for the ‘lunch and learn’ was almost double the norm. I was shocked for two reasons. It has been my experience that white Christians—especially in the South—want to avoid learning or talking about race/ism. And I am not a well known speaker. So having a large turn-out should have been my first clue that this was going to be a unique experience. 

While waiting for the interview to begin, I contemplated how to navigate beyond ‘the nervous tension of anticipation’—thinking through wording, phrasing, tone, humor, and all the things that help disarm and relax the listener who may be anticipating a ‘racial rant.’

Tammy, the interviewer, introduced me, accrediting me with far more accolades than I deserve. (Hey, in this line of work, I’ll take all the encouragement I can get!) But it was when Tammy turned the focus on herself, that I felt ‘the nervous tension of anticipation’ leave the room.

She bravely exposed her own need that had brought us together. She contextualized my significance within her lack. I could sense ‘me too’s’ and ‘ok, it doesn’t sound so bad coming from Tammy’s mouth’ and ‘If Tammy went there, so can I.’ I could almost hear a collective exhale. She warmed their hearts.

In doing this work, I have witnessed that many would rather use their time to impress or intimidate folks with how much they know about race issues…show how ‘racist’ they are not, which as you can imagine, is in no way helpful. Tammy’s vulnerability—her willingness to share her personal limitations—was the grace filled strength that did the hard work. All I did was simply pour into the hearts she had prepared. I liken it to the faithful obedience that collapsed the walls of Jericho (Joshua 6).  My intriguing content and presentation skills did not collapse those walls. It was the strength of Tammy’s vulnerability.

Listen here. (Church at Charlotte’s City Series Podcast with guest Dr. Lucretia Carter Berry of Brownicity.)

Here are links to our favorite resources.

‘What LIES Between Us: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing’ Series

Why? Because we need to know what has happened and how it has affected all of us before we can move towards recovery. Bring your brokenness, your pain, your questions, your desire to heal, your willingness to learn…bring your whole self to this experience and leave inspired, encouraged and empowered.

Register here.


You desire healing and change, but where do you start? How about with this 5 week group study that meets each THURSDAY in MARCH! This series is designed to get you started on the path to being the change you want to see in the world. You will gain historical and social context for racial division, support for self-reflection, healing and growth, and have the opportunity to develop community with others who want to be a part of the dialogue and solution.

Brownicity is family-focused and dedicated to advocacy, education, and support for racial healing and antiracism. If you are new to engaging in race discourse but want to do it in a way that is helpful and hopeful, this series is perfect for you! You will feel inspired, equipped and empowered!

Registration includes:

  • ‘Sweet Talk’ open reception (6:45p-7p weekly)
  • What LIES Between Us Journal & Guide: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing by Dr. Lucretia Carter Berry
  • media screenings
  • resources
  • materials
  • skillfully guided group discussions by the Brownicity Team
  • artist lead engagement
  • community safe space
  • Brownicity-themed activities for kids (preschool and elementary)

Space is limited in order to foster community. So register early!

Need childcare? 25 spaces are available for preschool and elementary aged children. So when you register, add the FREE tickets for your children.

The Global Mom Show Podcast: Talking to Your Kids About Race with Lucretia Berry

For our family, it seems ridiculous to pretend that we don’t see differences in our skin tone. In fact, we celebrate the diversity of our beautiful hues that make up the tapestry of our and the ‘hue-man’ family. Also, it seems odd that we would not talk about race with our young children, considering that we live in a society obsessed with ‘racial’ distinctions–even to the extent of pretending not to see them. Our conscientious approach to raising informed, instead of ‘colorblind,’ children evolved into Brownicity: The Art and Beauty of Living and Loving Beyond Race.

On The Global Mom Show, I had the opportunity to share more on the heart and story behind Brownicity and the creation of the series and book, What LIES Between Us Journal & Guide: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing. To get updates about when this series and others are offered, subscribe to our mailing list (website of fb page).

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Brownicity 2016 Highlights

Brownicity 2016 Highlights

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We entered 2016 knowing that we were to continue to disrupt the race narrative and send a dismantling ripple effect to expose the racial legacy of lies and injustice. Without knowing exactly how we would do this, we aligned with the disruption!

2016 seems to have been the year to shape and catapult us into who we are becoming. 2016 invited us into spaces where families gathered — homes, retreats, churches, schools — where moms and grandmothers were asking “how do we raise our children to do better than we did?” — where caring folks wanted to address race, but didn’t know quite how to do it well — where people wanted understanding — where the sincere concern was for the children.

In these spaces, we were able to foster liberation and healing for those who wanted to move forward with a renewed mind. Here are a few highlights!


WINTER

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Children aren’t afraid to talk about skin tone…Why are their parents?


The Annual Montreat Family Retreat by First Presbyterian Church of Lincolnton, NC 

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I’m Not Racist…Am I? review & reflections

Moms’ field trip

with Andre Robert Lee, film maker
with Andre Robert Lee, film maker

SPRING

Pioneer Springs Community School (CLT) Holistic Tea/Discussion. Mom’s don’t want to be told not to talk about race. Turns out, they want to empower children to be conscious, caring and courageous.

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Introducing our 21-Day Race Ideology Detox!

A traditionally White Southern Baptist church and an AME Zion church came together to learn and detox. 

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National Nanny Training Day Conference: When children have questions about skin tone, how will you respond?

And yes, nannies want in on the conversation, as well. 

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#WOKE

Mom’s are expanding the message into their art.


SUMMER

Hair is not a race! Hair is not ethnic!

To celebrate Loving Day, we decided to break a few beauty barriers. 

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Cornerstone Family Church, Des Moines, IA.

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icuTalks inaugural annual conference break-out session 

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Race: Are We So Different? FIELD TRIP

Family field trip

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What are kids learning… when we are not teaching…?

A Professional Development session for teachers and staff at a local charter school. 


Mosaic Church Charlotte ‘Stay and Play Date’ with moms and their precious littles.

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FALL

 

‘What LIES Between Us’ — What Does Love Sound Like?

Fostering self-reflection, introspection and healing as we address the lies that race/ism has told us about each other.

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Two Weeks!

A collaboration with icuTalks following the shooting death of Keith Lamont Scott, by CMPD and subsequent protests.


The team is growing and gearing up to make more righteous noise in 2017.

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Reading, Writing, Arithmetic and Overt Racism—The new normal school day?

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2016 let us know that what we initially thought would be a casual conversation between friends, a resonating tribe vibe, is actually the righteous declaration of an identity reformation! 2016 told us that empowering the children is systemic change! 2016 sharpened us for the work of 2017 and beyond. We are looking forward to more!! You are welcome to join us. (Subscribe or email)

Reading, Writing, and (overt) Racism: the new normal school day?

This is the beginning of an intricate text conversation I had this morning with my cousin, who is a wife, mom of two, and an award winning educator.

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I was furious and heart broken! But not wanting to jump to conclusions, I held myself back from blaming this hideous presidential campaign we endured for the last two years. You know, the one that breathed life into the fear-driven, hate-induced rhetoric that successfully accomplishes its mission of divide and conquer.

So, as you see in the text thread, I asked “Has anything like this ever happened before?” Again, trying to be objective, I deleted the extension of my question that read “before the president-elect’s campaign?” Of course, I knew the answer. But my desperate optimism was holding out for an equally dark but somehow more hopeful response like,

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Two Weeks!

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I don’t think we’ve ever been this vulnerable and bold on stage! icuTalks and Brownicity joined forces two weeks, to the day, of the shooting of Charlotte citizen, Keith Lamont Scott which inspired protests by fellow Charlotteans. Two weeks marks the time when people begin to abandon those who are grieving and go back to ‘normalcy.’ Instead of abandoning grievers and the cause for grief, we hold steadfast to our lament. We continue to ask HOW?  HOW did we get here? HOW will we be different?  We refuse to go back to normalcy!  “Forsake” normal!!!…and watch the video.